(*I actually do have a degree in psychology, but I assure
you, the following is based on personal opinion and biased observation of the
most unscientific kind.)
There are kids who love reading because they were just born
that way and it would have taken a lot to dissuade them, but there are others
who are very much on the fence, and luring them over to our side is a hot topic
for parents/teachers/librarians/writers. And personally, sometimes I think we
go about it all wrong.
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Firstly, is it completely necessary to turn every kid into Matilda? I don’t think kids are any more or less interested in books than
they’ve ever been. Our need for stories is ancient and it isn’t going anywhere.
But there are more story options available to them. Even computer games are
stories. Reading books for pleasure is not for everyone, just like maths or
cooking or map reading aren’t for everyone, and I think that’s OK. Let them get
excited about stories in whatever way they prefer.
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However, based on my observations of children and
vegetables, it seems to me that if you want to get them to read, or encourage
them to develop a love of reading, probably the worst thing you can do is make
it compulsory or tell them it’s good for them. Write a list of things that are
stuffed down kids’ throats (vegetables, school, bedtimes, baths, church,
reading), now write a list of the exact opposite of those things. You can title
this second list: Things Kids Actually Like.
Which makes me very suspicious of initiatives like the Accelerated
Reading scheme they do in schools now. The idea is it’s supposed to encourage
reading by getting kids to pledge to read a million words and they get rewards
for reaching their target. The issues with this are numerous and include
the fact that:
- Poor readers never reach the target and are probably more discouraged than encouraged
- Kids are hugely motivated by getting points – so motivated they’ll skim-read the books to get them faster (or just google the plot)
The worst thing I’ve heard was when someone told me they met some kids
who’d reached their targets and asked what their reward was… “they got a night
off reading once a week.”
So, instead of making reading appealing, they’ve basically
turned it into the hard slog you have to do to get a reward. Is it me, or is
that slightly counter-productive? It feels like the message kids are getting is
that books are the yukky green stuff they have to tolerate in order to get ice
cream.
We are actively training them to think ‘books = hard,
boring compulsory work that I should be rewarded for.’
But books are the
reward. How do we get them to see it like that? It’s not even that difficult.
I saw online recently a school that had a vending machine that
dispensed books. When the kids did something good they were given tokens for
the machine. Books = Reward. Easy. More of this please.
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I think something that really worked for me was bedtime
stories. But I don’t think it was because of the stories. I loved the stories,
yes, but what I liked even more, was the undivided attention of my dad. My dad
made story time an event, and read whatever I wanted even if it was Chicken
Licken for the millionth time.
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I often wonder (though never say, because parents just love
it when non-parents give them parenting advice), when parents complain that
their kids don’t read, ‘Do you read?’
And if you do, how often do you read? Do your kids see you read? If you read one biography and a Haynes manual a year
you can’t really complain that your kids don’t want to read a dozen chapter
books a week after they’ve done their homework. You can’t complain because they
want to be in the living room with you, but being in the living room involves
watching TV because it’s constantly on and it’s too noisy to read.
When I was a kid, our parents converted the attic to make us
a beautiful playroom where all our toys could be spread out and we could make
as much mess and noise as we liked. What did we do? We gathered our toys up and
brought them down to the living room because we wanted to be around our
parents. If you were banished to a
lonely room every time you wanted to read, you’d probably stop pretty quick
too. (OK, as adults you’d probably enjoy it, but kids are different.)
Some families have movie nights and board game nights. What
about reading nights? Do you ever switch off the TV and everyone get out a book? Kids emulate their parents. They want to be like you (when they’re young
and still think you’re cool anyway). So be the change you want to see in your
family.
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Or, if you want to go to extreme lengths, I recommend locking
all the books in a special forbidden cabinet and sending the kids to bed,
making sure they know the books will be enjoyed by the adults when they’re
safely out of the room. Forbid them. Tell them it’s bad for them. Tell them if
you catch them behind the bike sheds with a Roald Dahl you’ll have their hides.
Tell them it’s for adults only. Tell them they have to be really really well
behaved to get a sniff of a David Walliams. You’ll have them sneaking Anne
Frank in no time.
Roald Dahl knew this. If asked to describe Matilda you’d
probably say ‘Matilda loved to read’ not ‘Matilda wasn’t allowed to read’. But
she wasn’t. It was a subversive act, it was rebellion against her parents, and that’s
why kids cheered her on.
We should know this. We do
know this. We know exactly what happens when some religious group bans a book:
sales go through the roof. When they’re put on the school curriculum? Everyone
hates them.
Kids are suspicious of things that are given freely and
liberally to them. They know pizza and computer games are rationed but lettuce
and books are all-you-can-eat. Did you ever sneak one of your Mum’s Jackie Collins
novels? It was probably rubbish but you loved it because you weren’t allowed
it. Imagine if it had been Catcher in the Rye hidden in her bedside table. You’d
have read that too.
My parents were hugely supportive of my reading and provided
lots of books but they never pushed me towards it. In fact, they occasionally ordered
me to go outside and interact with other humans and they told me off for
reading when I should have been asleep hours ago. They even looked at me like I
was a bit weird because I’d rather read than play (they still look at me like
this. In fact, when I graduated – from an
English degree – my mum said she’d considered getting me book tokens but
decided I had enough books and got me Top Shop vouchers instead. I exchanged
them for book tokens). At no point in my childhood do I remember being told
that books were good for me. They were just there, and I was a weirdo for preferring
them to anything else. I kinda liked being the weirdo.
I saw this on Twitter recently. Genius. |
In all seriousness, it’s so important that every kid gets the
opportunity to become a reader. Not least because we know that kids who read
books end up having better paid jobs (unless they want to write books, obvs), but
I think we need to understand the psychology of the adversary here. Telling a
reluctant reader they should read because it’ll get them a job as a lawyer will not work. Kids don’t want to be
lawyers, they want to be ninjas. So put the book on top of the wardrobe and give
them some black leggings and a grappling hook.
She blogs about Writing, Gardening and VW Campervanning at weewideworld.blogspot.co.uk
@KMcCaughrain
5 comments:
I could cheer! Absolutely spot on.
The reward for reading a lot of books is to have an evening off reading? - Wh-a-at?
Honestly, I think educational authorities should employ some dog-trainers to encourage reading. Dog-trainers seem to have a much clearer idea of how to motivate.
I have read voraciously all my life and one reason is that my parents read voraciously and obviously couldn't get enough of it. I wanted some of that.
My parents also read to us.
And although I don't think my parents planned it, I remember distinctly getting the impression that reading 'Tom Sawyer' was forbidden -- partly because it had been placed high in a bookcase. I used to wait until they were in other rooms, drag a chair over, climb up and read as much as I could until I heard them coming back. When my mother caught me, she laughed and said, "Read it if you want!"
Oh, and I discovered 'Lady Chatterley's Lover,' wrapped in brown paper and hidden under the sink, so I read that too until I got bored.
LOL Susan! That's clever parenting. And yeah, Lady Chat was disappointingly dull!
I love the idea of locking books away to make them dangerous. Great post.
Kelly, you've done it again! You see the problem so clearly and get right to the heart of it. When is your book of "Reading Tips for Limitless Kids" coming out? I'm convinced of what you said at the very beginning - "Our need for stories is ancient and it isn’t going anywhere." Of course children will read IF they find the right story. IF they see the important adults in their lives enjoying books and stories. LOVE the idea of a family reading night. Today we're having a snow day where I live, which means schools are closed, and everyone rushes to the grocery store to lay in gallons of milk and mountains of bread. I went to the library and it was swarming with kids! Looking at books, looking for books, asking the librarian where to get their hands on the books they wanted. Stories aren't going away. You have the BEST posts!!
Aw thanks, Marianne, and yay for snow days! Glad your library is thriving. EVERYONE loves stories. My computer programmer husband was at a training day recently where they basically told them to frame their sales pitches and demos as stories because that's what people respond to.
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